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The issue is simple. Gay people exist. Gay people aren't allowed to get married. That is unfair. The debate is complicated because people make it complicated. I've never heard an argument against gay marriage that I haven't instantly dismissed. I'm not gay, I don't have any close friends who are gay, and I don't have an "agenda" (a word that appears altogether too often in this debate, which is, or should be, about human rights and not politics).
Many people who oppose gay marriage are religious to some degree. It's not unreasonable to suggest that many such people are not only opposed to the marriage aspect, they are opposed to homosexuality itself. It's not just marriage that is between a man and a woman, it's same-sex relationships full stop. The religious arguments range from old-testament craziness - as seen in various letters to The West Australian last week - to relatively progressive "I support equal rights for gays but please don't change the definition of marriage" arguments.
Of course, religious people are entitled to their opinions - I wouldn't have it any other way - but I fail to see how allowing (or not allowing) homosexual people to get married affects anyone, apart from homosexual people. To say or imply that allowing gay people to marry devalues heterosexual marriage or the traditional family unit is inherently homophobic and unfair, and it's a shame that such people are part of this debate.
The faithful often (correctly) point out that marriage began as a religious institution, and for some people that is what it still is. Fine. However, I daresay for that many, many more people than that - and this is a point that has been made countless times - marriage is simply a commitment between two people who love one another other so much that they want to grow old together. No matter how many times the religious right shriek that Australia was founded on the principles of Christianity, Australia is a secular society. I've never even been to a wedding in a church. The only weddings I've been to have been outdoors, performed by female civil celebrants licensed by the Government. My own mother is a marriage celebrant and happens to be an atheist.
The Prime Minister and other senior Labor ministers such as Penny Wong have been accused by the Greens of lacking courage in their refusal to engage in the debate. It was refreshing and surprising to hear Labor Right faction heavy and Roman Catholic Mark Arbib call for a conscience vote against the general party line - and definitely against the Right line - earlier this month. He's been accused of cynically kowtowing to the Greens, which may be true - the man knows politics after all - but it's certainly a positive step. Two weeks ago Labor backbencher Stephen Jones publicly supported Greens MP Adam Bandt's successful motion to allow MPs to seek the views of their electorates on the issue, and other prominent ALP MPs such as Anthony Albanese are on the record as being in support of gay marriage.
Conspicuously silent on the issue had been Penny Wong, until this week when she finally spoke in favour of changing the Labor platform next year at the ALP National Conference. Many had been disappointed that a half-Asian, openly gay senior Labor minister - who by her own account has had first hand experience of discrimination - refused to publicly speak against her party's stance. Her reasons were of course political, as she explains in this clip: (Check out Graham Richardson springing to Wong's defence at 4:45)
Wong was clearly biding her time.
With more and more senior Labor people from both factions going against the party line, it seems that the Prime Minister is under growing pressure to revise her own and the ALP's position on the issue, which is good news for gay people and fans of common sense.
Still, the debate continues to get mired in irrelevant and infuriating non-points. Consider this recent article by Australian journalist Christopher Pearson, which starts off with the line:
THE most obvious thing about arguments for same-sex marriage is their shallowness.Wait - arguments for gay marriage are shallow? He's pulled the old switcheroo! Pearson goes on to describe arguments in favour of gay marriage as specious, "vulgar inevitabilism", before claiming that he is pro-gay after all:
Few have argued more consistently over many years than I have done that same-sex partners should get a fair deal on superannuation and other entitlements of that kind. Labor's reforms in the last parliament mean that couples are treated pretty much equally except in the matter of marriage.Sounds like token and insincere political correctness, but I'll allow it. Besides, there's a good chance he is sincere on this point, more on that later.
But the few remaining privileges reserved for matrimony are there for sound, practical reasons.Here we go.
Most men are not naturally disposed to be monogamous, for example. One of the purposes of marriage is to bind them to their spouses and children for the long haul and to give the state's approval to those who enter such a contract and abide by its terms.Well, that is contentious at best, and even if it's true it is certainly not an argument against gay marriage. If two guys want to get married, isn't the monogamy problem (if we accept it) twice as bad? If we let guys get married there's less chance they can run amok spreading gay everywhere!
Another of the purposes of marriage is to affirm that parenthood is a big, and in most cases the primary, contribution a couple can make, both to their own fulfilment and the public good.Couples whose biology does not allow them to have children should be banned from being able to marry. I'm not even going to point out the obvious problem with that, because it has been written about so many times already.
It follows that societies which want to sustain their population size, let alone increase their fertility level, should positively discriminate in favour of stable, heterosexual relationships...It's discrimination, but it's positive. I've never heard anyone argue that gay marriage will destroy our population growth before. I mean, what is the percentage of homosexuality in a given population? I was told once that it's about 10%, a figure which I have always felt to be about right. A quick Google search suggests that it is significantly lower than that, although there has never been a definitive study performed. In any case - and I'm sure I don't have to point this out - there is absolutely no way that allowing gay marriage would affect population in any way at all. That kind of conclusion can only be reached if you believe that homosexuality is not just a choice, but a disease that can be spread.
...and assert the preferability of adolescents making a normal transition to heterosexual adulthood.There it is. Heterosexuality is normal and homosexuality is abnormal. Again, this has been written about so much it's almost clichéd at this point, but that kind of thinking is outdated, unrealistic and unhelpful. You can't guide a child into heterosexuality. Gay people just exist. Gay people have always existed, it's part of the human condition, get over it, move on.
It should be obvious to unprejudiced observers that, while there are plenty of well-adjusted gays who manage to lead satisfying and productive lives, rational people do not of their own volition choose to be homosexual.This is a badly-structured and ambiguous sentence, but what I think he is saying given the context of the article is that gay people should not choose to be gay because that is irrational. Stop being irrational, gays. Make the right choice.
This seems like as good a time as any to point out something that might surprise you if you didn't already know: Christopher Pearson is - and I'm being serious here - gay. He's also religious - Catholic to be specific - but you might have already guessed that.
Among the reasons the Greens are so keen on same-sex marriage is that they want to reduce the population and drive down national fertility. Their refusal to discriminate positively in favour of heterosexuality and uphold the distinctive value of normal marriage shows their political project yet again for what it is: a dead end.If the Greens think that gay marriage is a good way to reduce population growth then they are even more dangerously misguided than The Australian thinks they are. Pearson is really stretching here. Next thing you know he'll bring up abortion.
Speaking of dead ends, some American bishops have recently given a persuasive account of why same-sex marriage has come to look like a modest reform. They put it down to a culture where contraception and abortion are so widely practised that the crucial differences between a fertile couple, a couple childless by choice and a gay couple have been largely obscured and each partnership is seen as morally equivalent. They also lay some of the blame on a UN version of entitlement, in which marriage could be reduced to an unqualified abstract right.!
Pearson goes on to claim that Labor should not change its stance on gay marriage because they would lose "faith based" votes, and questions the validity a recent study that found the majority of Australians support gay marriage.
See what I mean about muddying the waters? Pearson is a gay man who (unsurprisingly) fully supports equal entitlements for same-sex couples, yet at the same time his conflicting religious conservatism forces him to split his brain in half just to be able to form an opinion. Not surprisingly, his arguments come across as rambling and confusing.
I am too often a fence sitter. Too often I'll look at all sides of an issue then throw up my hands and say "well there are a lot of grey areas" and go do something else.
I don't see any grey areas in the gay marriage debate.


















